At church I keep being asked to do chores that I do not want to do, for projects in which I never wanted to participate. I do not know how to handle the situation, it stresses me out.
Sally
Dear Sally,
Church. . . ah yes, that one puts you in a bit of a spot, as we all want to do our bit for God. Some people could not mind less if they are shirking their duties. But I know you want to “do your part.”
This I do know, God wants you to mind to your own spiritual gifts. So if you have artistic, and wisdom gifts, not skills necessarily, it really doesn’t help with making deviled eggs for the refreshments after church no matter how much they say yours are needed, or how much they say, the tarragon in yours makes the dish.
I feel your pain, but woman up. First pray to God for help with your voice on the phone so you will say the right thing, not have a crack in your voice, or the very worst, cry. Then telephone the recruiters (generally the nicest of people) of the irritating jobs, say that you no longer will be doing the aforementioned chores. It is probably good not to hang up right then. A “Thank you very much for understanding”, would be appropriate. You could tell them about your migraines, your broken ankle, or the husband leaving you for another woman if you must, but this is totally unnecessary. You do not need a reason. When you hang up say, “thank you, God”. Send your guilt to time out, and don’t let it out until it can behave.
Radish
From BYW--I loved this! I think it completely works, in part because there is humor!
Posted by: clarice | September 24, 2010 at 08:53 AM
Great advice. I can so relate! Thanks for the laugh. The photo is eye catching - love it.
Posted by: Mood Ring Mama | September 24, 2010 at 12:31 PM
Maybe they will discover this blog and lighten your load for you!
Posted by: Former navyatcgirl | October 06, 2010 at 08:07 PM